My Thoughts

Everyday I make plans or try to put an effort towards something. Like looking for a job, looking into grad school definitely not thinking of raising  children for now and so on.

I believe Effort + Plan = Success
I guess that's what I want to believe.

I wonder and I ask myself, what's going on in my life? Today, and in the long run?
My very good friend tells me I worry too much.. Come to think of it, if I don't worry for myself, who will? My mom? well she will, but it's my life.

My favorite aunt called me yesterday and one conversation led to another till she said "I was ripe for marriage". In my head I was like "This lady is talking balls" She emphasized that we children of nowadays all we think about is our achievements and we forget that we are incomplete without a man or a woman. Truth I thought.

Sometimes I wonder what life looks like out there in the distant future.. Where do I want to be five years from now? ten years? even two years? what visions do i see springing forth?

Too many questions, no answer.. I agree I worry a lot.




We all agree that we sometimes wonder what the future holds. Some seek out blindly to discovering the future by trusting in horoscopes, tarot card readings and juju (Lol) My little secret: Last summer in New York City, I went to get my palm read. Well, I was glad I did because I checked it out of my to-do list. However, I dint do it to know about my future but for the fun of it...To to my surprise the lady told everything about myself. It was pretty intense and scary.. I cried. :|





Anyways, it's wonderful to know that you don't need to seek any means in attempting to know what the future holds for you. Instead, look to the One who knows exactly where you would be in five years, ten years. I realized he won't lay it out for you.. rather, he will guide you on the steps today that will take you in the direction he wants you to go.


In other words, the dream you have for your future, lay them down before God

"Entrust your efforts to the Lord, and all your plans will succeed" 

10 Funny facts + Guilty Pleasures

1. I almost never answer my phone (very bad habit) but I will text you back almost immediately

2.          I do a little happy dancing when I'm about to eat. I don't even realize i do it either until my house mates point it out.

3.           I love chick flicks and west African movies...West African movies could be boring and hilarious but they put me to sleep 

  

4.             Jnr whoppers and big macs, totally love them.

                                                              

5.      I'm a freak. Yes, I know. Walking is one of my guilty pleasures. I know it shouldn't be because the last time I checked, I was below the normal body fat. I just can't help it. 

6.     Procastinating should be my middle name. I tend to legitimize just checking one more tweet before doing what I really want or should be doing. I'm really working on this one as its a guilty pleasure turned sour.

7.     I can't sleep when there are any sounds around such as TV, music or whatever.. I need it to be quiet round be. I hate noise when i'm about to sleep cause i'm a light sleeper.

8.     I love taking self portraits of myself.

  

9.      Twitter- I cannot help it.. Even if i'm not tweeting, my followers tweets crack me up. I'll rather twitter to facebook

Very Random #100FactsAboutMe

1. I'm a goal-oriented individual         
2. I am the third of five children
3. I'm a Lagos babe ;) 
4. I love God
5. My mom is my world and i'm glad she knows I appreciate her
6. I love my only Doctor Sister
7. My brothers are my world
8. I have a soft spot for my dad
9. I'm too secretive and it kills me
10. Sometimes I wish I could open up to someone.. but I just can't.. Thats who I am
11. I love food
12. I MUST have breakfast to function 
13. Coffee keeps me going
14. I love NYC
15. People get the wrong impression about me
16. I can get along with anyone if I put my mind to it
17. I can eat with my enemy
18. I don't care what people think or say about me
19. I really don't like eye shadows... they don't work for me
20. I rule my world
21. I'm very independent
22. I love to party, not a very good dancer but a good grinder
23. Lesbians are cute I think
24. I have no problem with gay guys
25. Coming to America drew me closer to God
26. I used to call my dad's room my bank
27. I love to research about random things
28. I wouldn't try singing in public
29. I am always loved by my bosses for some weird reason
30. I hardly get upset
31. I laugh alot
32. Spongebob, Family guy and Southpark make my day
33. I am so addicted to chocolates
34. I hate milk 
35. I can only take coca pop cereal because it makes my milk chocolaty 
36. I love to text
37. I don't have a favorite color, but there is something about red and I
38. When I get nervous, I bite my nails
39. The only time my dad hit me was because I hissed at him.. he made me so mad, don't blame me :|
40. I cannot wait to have my twin boys, I have their name set in my head
41. Not a big fan of going to the movies
42. Sometimes, I think I can read minds
43. I'm very unique in all aspect you can ever imagine
44. I hate my broad shoulders
45. I'm a very complicated human being
46. You can never know what goes through my head
47. I love to travel
48. I hate roaches, flies and spiders
49. I love adventures 
50. I usually get migraines in the summer.. thanks to the sun
51. I forgive easily, Life is too short
52. I love love taking a walk
53. When i'm bored i make videos of myself dancing
54. I'm a very weird individual.. My mom keeps reminding me
55. My first job ever was at a coffee/smoothie shop
56. I want to own a smoothie and coffee shop some day
57. I cry
58. I have never smoked
59. I have only loved one man genuinely but it ended after 3yrs and a half I believe
60. I'm currently singe, and i love every bit of it.
61. I was born November 5, 1988
62. I'm a 100 percent Scorpio
63. When i'm upset I buy expensive shoes for myself.. it makes me feel so much better
64. I don't mind long distance relationships
65. Call me old school, but I think the idea of friends with benefit is Bullshit
66. I hate when people try to out smart me because I think i'm pretty smart
67. My big brother is hilarious.. he practically wants to dictate my life for me
68. I love to cook
69. I would never be a house wife no matter how rich my husband is. I've suffered so much in college to let it go
70. The idea of marriage scares me
71. I hate cats and snakes
72. I love the dark
73. Ibo guys get attracted to me for some weird reason
74. I went kayaking and thought I was going to die.. I confessed all my sins 
75. I recently got baptized and i'm glad i did
76. I have never seen an accident or a dead body before (Thank God)
77. I hate pain
78. I cannot ride a bicycle because i'm scared of falling
79. I'm scared of the rain
80. I would like to write a book someday
81. I don't want to be rich or famous.. I just want to be successful
82. I got my palm read by a fortune teller last summer in NYC and i'm glad I did
83. I cried to Lion King when I was little
84. I love the smell of dust
85. I love and appreciate my friends
86. I love hard working and goal-oriented guys/men
87. I love making people laugh.. I mean there is never a dull moment with me
88. I don't underestimate anyone
89. My biggest fear? Death of a loved one 
90. As a kid, I was a Lego builder
91. I don't play any instruments
92. I'm scared of aging
93. I don't believe in Love at first sight..To me, its admiration
94. I don't have a type.. As long as you're goal oriented, hardworking, taller or same height and smarter than I am.. Well, thats a type :D
95. I cant stand those who try to impress me.. Please be yourself
96. I'm very stubborn
97. I'm a go-getter 
98.  I think of the weirdest thing you can ever imagine.. sometimes I ask myself  "Why"
99. I graduate in less than 2 months, not sure what i'm going to do with my life. Hopefully i'll get a job
100. My name is Nifemi and this has been 100 Facts about me

Only if he'd think this way

"You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again.

But if she loves you now, what else matters? she's not perfect - you aren't either, and the two of you may never  be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being humans and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can.

She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break  - her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyse and don't expect more that she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad and miss her when she's not there."

-Marley 

PR in me

Being a PR student, I think I have been taught differently.. Or better still, my professors teach me differently. I remember taking an internship class last semester and I disliked it so much because I thought it was a waste and of no use.. Along the line, I began to realize how useful it was.

I came across this article through a PR dude I follow on twitter and I thought it was necessary to share it.

Although, I think you should take your time to read it because there is a lot that can be learned especially for people like me that are looking for jobs but, Its pretty long, so I'll summarize it in a sentence. "After a job interview, learn to send a Thank You note.. It takes nothing to send one. A card is less than a dollar" It is very necessary to do so because it makes you stand out. If don't believe me, click on the link.

Why You Will Never Get Hired at Our PR Firm

The Song in Me

The first time I listened to this song, I couldn't believe the magic in Kem's voice. You get lost in it as it touches the depths of your soul... what an amazing God-giving talent.

It is indeed my favorite songs of all time. Every time I hear this song, I get chills... If you ask me, I'll say this is a love song in the truest form. It bares the lover's innermost thoughts and vulnerabilities.

This kind of song makes you feel the love and joy that you have for your lover (Too bad i don't have one...) but it makes me feel the joy of family and friends.

All I can say is WOW! what a wonderful spirit... there aren't many artists with such clarity and that can connect with your soul. 

The song is FIAHHH!!!!

Life goes on.

 You have to take the good with the bad

When you're sad, Love what you've got

Always remember what you had...

Always forgive but never forget

Learn from your mistakes but never regret, 

People change, things go wrong, 

Remember, Life goes on.

His love I left (Part 2)

Been a gentle man, he open the door for her. She got down with fear. They headed straight to his living room. While she was eating.. he took her purse to his room upstairs. In her mind she was doomed.

They both laughed while having dinner. His housemate came in and she was so shy. He made fun of him and went to his room. She feel asleep on the couch, he carried her to his room, dint touch her at all. She woke the next morining and found him starring at her.

She blushed like an angel. "Good morning beautiful" He said. She giggled. Apparently he already made breakfast and brought it to her in bed. He watched her eat. 

... Later in the afternoon, they rode around the city...He asked if she wanted to catch a movie with him. She accepted happily. He then droped her off at her apartment and kissed her good bye. "Freshing up baby, i'll come get you later" He said and she smiled.

He picked her up for the movies...after the movies, she accepted to spend the night at his place again so he followed her to her apt, waited till she changed to her PJ's and they went to his place.

They went straight to his room. He went to take a shower and when he got back, she was alseep. He kissed her on the forehead and on her lips and she woke up. "Hey babe you took forever" She said.

Then she realized he only had boxers on, the fear came back and she started shivering. "Baby are you okay" He said.. Yes I am she replied. Its cold in your room. He got up and went to turn on the heater.

He jumped on the bed, ticked her and started kissing her all over... she started shaking again. "Baby are you sure you're okay you know you can talk to me" He said "Bbe i don't know why i'm shaking... I know i'm scared" She replied.

"It's okay baby, i'm sorry baby... I understand. He layed on the bed, carried her on top of him, robbed her back like a baby till she fell asleep.

To be continued.

Random Mission

I have three beautiful house mates and we're all single by choice. Two days ago, I was in one of my house mates room and we were talking about random stuffs. One thing led to another and we started talking about this family in Houston.The husband is a famous surgeon in Houston and earns about three hundred and fifty thousand US Dollars on every surgery he performs.

We both did a little bit of stalking on Facebook because she knows them. They attend the same church. Apparently, the surgeon and his family goes on vacation every summer to Jamaica or the Bahamas. 

We sat on the floor in her room and thought about our lives and that of our children. Then I remembered I have a cousin who attends a Medical School in Nashville. I told her it won't be a bad idea to go visit him and see if we can network and meet our future doctors. You never know what might happen *wink*

I told my other roommates and they all loved the idea hopefully our mission gets accomplished. However, I have a soft spot for engineers, accountants, business men, not really a big fan of doctors because my sister and dad are doctors.. But like i said.. "You never know"

Sooo, this coming weekend we are going to Nashville to see if something good will come out of our trip. "You never know" 

"Networking they say is never a bad idea."

I'll keep you all posted.

Love • Goal • Desire

"If i can enjoy a joke at the expense of another, if i can in anyway slight another in conversation or even in thought, then i know nothing of calvary love"

Today, I got to work early and my boss was absent. However, her amazing secretary wasn't sure on what I was supposed to do so she gave me two books to read. They were "Becoming a woman who loves and Becoming a woman of excellence. They were both written by a Christian author.

I was glad I read them because I was able to reflect on how I live my life and how I impact those around me. One of my favorite quote from the book was " Right thinking, right behavior lead to right feelings." To me, our emotions are consequences of our thinking and actions. It is necessary that we discipline our minds and wills.

"I ain't what i ought to be, but i ain't what i used to be"

That quote got me thinking about the goals I set and my desire to want something done even though it took me a while to differentiate them.

If I were to lose weight, that would be a legitimate goal because I am solely responsible for what i eat and whether i exercise or not. If I want a friend or loved one to loose weight, that can only be my desire because i cannot control what he or she eats or when he or she exercises. There is nothing wrong with desire but it is very important to discern between goals and desires in our life. A goal is something that i can be totally responsible for...i do not have to depend on a friend to get it accomplished.  

For instance, If i were in a relationship: i cannot have a goal of having a good relationship with my boyfriend because it involves someone else.  Don't get me wrong.. it can be a desire and i can pray and cooperate in the relationship to make it work. A goal for me in a relationship will be to be a good girlfriend because it is a gradual process that i can work on and control.

One being an excellent woman/man doesn't really depend on anyone else...rather it depends on deciding that you will be a child of God, who fears him and one who is free to love and serve others.

Remember, if we do not show love to one another, the world has a right to question whether Christianity is true.

His love I left (Part 1)

"Oh my God! I think I heard a girls voice in the background... is he seeing someone else? has he already gotten over me? I could swear i heard a girl cough....why do i wish i never broke up" She said.

He was her first and hoped he would be the last...but things usually don't turn out the way we want it. Five years ago, this random dude walked up to her at a house part and asked her on a date. She refused.

We know how determined guys never give up.

Well, they became friends. He wanted to be more than friends but she wasn't ready for any commitment. He had no other option than to stick to the friendship. A year went by, and the chemistry was there. She finally decided to give him a chance.

She was the shy type and he wasn't ... PDA was pretty embarrassing to her. One day, he decided to invite her over to his house to spend the night. It was war. she called her best friend for advice "should i take my toothbrush or my PJ's? what am i supposed to do when I get there, I'm scared, I don't think i'm ready for this or do you want to come with me?" She said nervously. Her best friend thought it was so funny but understood the fact that it was going to be her first night in a guy's house.

Calm down my love, and be yourself ...Remember, nothing would happen if you don't want it to, her best friend said.

About an hour later, the dude came to pick her up.. they stopped at a Chinese buffet to get dinner and headed to his place. As soon as they they got to the front of his house, her heart skipped.

To be continued ...